“I don’t want you to save me, I want you to stand by my side as I save myself.” -Anonymous
I love the above quote because it touches on a very important truth when it comes to battling many mental illnesses. That being, it is impossible for someone else to actually save a person who is sick if they are not willing to fight for themselves.
This can be a hard pill to swallow, because as humans there is this aspect of us that likes to be able to control situations. We want the people we love to live, therefore, we want to save them and make them live, but this simply cannot be done unless the other person is willing to do so. Not truly.
My friend Melissa eventually became so obsessed with the notion of killing herself that it no longer mattered how many people truly cared about her. She convinced herself that no one would really care if she died and that she would be easily forgotten. Melissa wanted to die, so she found a way to die.
Now, I have seen others like Melissa who were in a seriously dark place overcome their bad feelings, but these individuals not only had others cheering them on but had an intense self-determination to get better. I personally believe that any mental illness can be overcome, but not unless the person suffering truly wants to overcome it.